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When my cat Einstein died, I was devastated. He was a 20-pound, lovable, ornery beast who knew what he wanted and when he wanted it. He was a cat with chutzpah. I once saw him being chased by a dog; it was as if he suddenly remembered he had claws. He slid to a grinding […]

How many times have you had an overblown reaction to something and wondered why your emotions got so out of control? Usually, if not every time, it’s because of something called the 90/10 rule. 90% of the upset is responding to unresolved issues from the past. 10% is fueled by the moment. Parts of ourselves